Of course not everyone experiences loneliness. Lucky them. If you had mentioned being alone a year or so ago I would have said that I actually suffered quite badly from being lonely. I suppose it's stupid thing to say but I think 'loneliness' is sort of 'self-induced!' What do I mean? Well I think we live in such an amazing world why should we ever feel alone. I know I can talk myself into being lonely, why has nobody called me today, why does nobody ever ask me to dinner, why why why...
But 2 years ago my 'husband' of 52 years died and then 18 months ago we went into lockdown. Well I thought 'boy am I going to be lonely with a capital L.'
No, I'm amazed. I am not in the slightest bit lonely. I have never had so much to do, I am enjoying talking to the dog, I'm enjoying cooking again, meals that I like not meals I have cooked for 52 years to please others. I have lunch at 3pm and supper at 10pm. I watch TV and cry when I want to. I DON'T FLICK THE REMOTE.
I am learning Italian which I promised my Italian lover, many years ago, that I would try...now I have time, but he is dead but hey ho at least I have time and he would be proud of me!
So during lockdown I have also joined a course for candle making, that saved me money for Christmas, everyone got a candle. I over ordered so I have enough wax to make 100 candles...gone off the whole idea now!
What I do miss are phone calls. Thank goodness I have a few older friends who still pick up the phone and we natter away. Wonderful. THEN I have all my younger friends who seem to have no time to chat, they just PING at me with a text, and you have a message like...hope u r well will c u soon! Well it's better than nothing isn't it? I reply OK and LUSH and maybe other silly things but as I am not old they understand me...
Just stop and think how lucky we are living in our wonderful country. Without a lecture could I just say perhaps if we could not ask for peaches in December and Asparagus in March we could support OUR farmers and help to save not only our little GREAT BRITAIN but also THE PLANET...lecture over...but come on it's not much to ask is it?
So don't be lonely, don't be sad, just get on with living and with giving, you can't go wrong can you?
